I talk to people from time to time who are looking for tips on how to raise their stress tolerance. They think that the key to their life dreams and their MLM personal growth is to be able to handle greater and greater levels of stress.

Actually, the exact opposite is true. But I’ll get to that in a moment.

As YOU know by now, we get what we expect in life. We get what we “put out there.” And if you put out there that what you want is MORE stress, guess what? Yes, absolutely. More pressure and confusion and responsibility and frustration are heading your way. Maybe you’ll really luck out and get a full-blown family-threatening or career-threatening or dream-threatening or life-threatening crisis!

Isn’t it obvious that this is a step in the wrong direction?

But it’s understandable. I read about “stress workshops” where the stated aim is to raise your stress tolerance. So even the “experts” are lost.

In my experience, for maximum happiness & success, you want to minimize the stress in your life. Notice as soon as you start to feel the slightest stress. Nip it in the bud BEFORE it gets to be the size of Jack’s beanstalk.

Are your thoughts moving too quickly? Back off. Get your bearings.

Is your schedule impossible for ANY human? Slow down. Re-evaluate what is REALLY important.

Feeling “out of control” or resentful? Definite signs of stress. So relax, go for a walk. Get back in control.

The key is to notice the problem and correct it before it becomes King Kong and takes over your life.

People get stressed because they can’t “do it all.” But the fact is, if your mind is clear & peaceful, and your stress level is minimal, you will be way more effective, both in your MLM business and in your personal life. Plus, you will have more fun. So if you want a happier life, LOWER your tolerance for stress. Strange, but true.

Your friends for life,

Michael & Linda Dlouhy
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As you probably heard from your parents a long time ago, life isn’t fair. Which is true. We’ve all heard it.

But not everyone accepts it. And I think they’d be much happier if they did, in both their personal and business life. You can even develop a very effective MLM strategy around the unfairness of life.

When things don’t go their way, a lot of people spend their time complaining about life, feeling sorry for themselves. A lot of others commiserate with them, telling them that “lift isn’t fair” … as if they’ve been singled out to be cheated.

And the result? Both parties have their attention totally diverted from anything that could possibly raise their spirits and make them happy. You become what you think about. And the more you focus on the unfairness of life, the more unfair it all gets.

Why does it always get worse? Because you are no longer actively focusing on achieving and making your life better. Pity - whether for ourselves or for others - is a deflating emotion. It makes everyone feel worse.

So rather than feeling sorry for someone who has been treated unfairly by life, feel compassion instead. Show them kindness. It’s much more valuable to them for you to encourage them do do the best they possibly can with what they have.

Everybody has their own unique set of strengths and weaknesses. We all have the challenge of playing our hand to the best of our ability. Bad things happen in life. So what? That doesn’t change our duty to ourselves and to our loved ones to do the absolute best we can with what we have.

A good strategy is to adopt the notion that “everything happens for a reason.” No matter how awful an event is in your life, think about it in terms of “what lesson am I supposed to get from this? What is life teaching me?” When you believe that everything happens for a reason, you will never waste time & energy feeling sorry for yourself or for others.

There will be times in life and in business that you struggle, times you feel victimized, or that you have been treated unfairly. Believe me, every single instance of life’s unfairness to you had a reason behind it. It’s a very effective MLM strategy to examine the situation. You’ll find the reason pretty easily, so you can then get back on track and into action, stronger, wiser, and better-prepared than before.

Your friends for life,

Michael & Linda Dlouhy
1-352-799-8779 Call anytime.
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Almost daily, I talk with people who focus on stuff that will either make no difference or will actually have a negative impact on their business and/or personal life.

This is a lack of perspective. When you’re in the heat of the moment is NOT the time to be making your next decision. MLM planning is best done in your peaceful moments, by yourself, with no outside pressures. You can see clearly and you can plan clearly.

Those pressures will show up on a regular basis, for sure. It’s critical to your MLM success that when you must deal with situations, you follow a plan prepared in advance for exactly this circumstance. The alternative is to react when your mind is in turmoil. Not a good time to be reacting.

And when planning how to handle a situation, train yourself to have some perspective. Imagine that you are actually a year in the future, looking back at this “problem”. Then ask this question:

Was that thing really any big deal?

Most of the situations people agonize over today, they won’t even remember a year from now. So what’s the point of wasting time focusing on something like that?

Occasionally, you’ll come up with something that IS a big deal. And this little trick will help you spot it when it happens. But you’ll learn that most of the time, the best course is just to make ANY decision and get on with your life and your MLM business.

Maybe you had an argument with someone close to you. Maybe you handled a prospect badly. Or lost your wallet. Or caught the flu. Will you even remember it a year from now?

Chances are, it’ll be just one more irrelevant detail. Taking this perspective won’t make everything go away, but you’re sure to laugh at some of the situations that used to throw you for a loop. So instead of getting angry and/or overwhelmed, plan ahead. Train yourself to use your energy for better purposes.

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Michael & Linda Dlouhy
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I spend a lot of hours a week talking to people one-on-one about their emotions and how to use them to build MLM relationships. So it’s no real surprise that while doing MLM prospecting, I regularly run into a person’s resentment toward friends or relatives, often from years ago. The source could be an argument, the way they were raised, some slight either real or imagined, any kind of emotionally painful occurrence. And often, the person is waiting for “the other guy” to call and apologize.

The people I speak with all want to be successful in network marketing. And to have more, they have to BE more. In this case, it’s important to reach out and forgive. What is the sense going through life angry? And it makes no difference who is “at fault.”

I spoke with a lady not long ago, and she is in poor health. She hasn’t talked to her son in nearly 3 years. I asked her, “Why?” She told me about their argument over his wife. The lady was adamant. Her son was wrong. No way would she talk to him until he called and apologized.

I mentioned it might be good for her to make the call. Her response? “No. He’s got to call and apologize.”

This lady was willing to die rather than make the first move to make up with her own son. And, of course, it appeared he was prepared to never see his mother again, until the funeral.

After we spoke for awhile, she did decide to reach out. She called me back, amazed. Her son was very thankful she called him. And he DID apologize. They both benefitted immensely from her willingness to call.

As a side benefit (mine), nothing builds your business faster than an MLM prospect who is thrilled with the mentoring you give them.

Holding onto anger turns our minds topsy-turvy. We actually believe being right is more important than relationships. That’s just not true. To be happy, let the anger go. Reach out. Let that other person be right. It doesn’t mean you’re wrong. You’ll be OK. Once you let go, you’ll feel the peace and joy of allowing that other person to be right.

And what you’ll notice is, they get less defensive. They appreciate and love you more. Often, they reach back. But even if they don’t, you have the satisfaction of knowing you did your part to heal the break, and you’ll feel much better about yourself.

Which is worth a lot anytime you’re doing MLM prospecting!

Your friends for life,

Michael & Linda Dlouhy
1-352-799-8779 Call anytime.
“Be a mentor with a servant’s heart!”
Success In 10 Steps