When you’re networking, it’s important to see the picture from the other person’s viewpoint. If that person is to achieve their dreams, if they are to become a more effective networker themselves, then you need to help them get better … but don’t kill them in the process.

There are a lot of ways to skin a cat. Even though somebody else takes a totally different approach from yours, it may well be just as effective … or moreso. You certainly want to encourage that.

On the other hand, it may not work at all. THEN what do you do? It’s important to get them going on the right track, but you can’t publicly embarrass them or put them down. That discourages them. So you must be able to see the situation through the other person’s eyes. You want them to see you as a coach they can learn from. Talk about what they are doing right, as well as what improvements they can make.

You’ve got to do 2 things at the same time - move the person off their “failure-path” AND build them up, so they can feel the joy and the belief. If a person has no belief and confidence, it doesn’t much matter what path they are on. They aren’t going anywhere. So when you coach a person, you must walk that fine line of BOTH bolstering their confidence AND changing their direction. It’s not easy. But that’s why network marketing pays so well.

Your friends for life,

Michael & Linda Dlouhy
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“Be a mentor with a servant’s heart!”
Success In 10 Steps

If you’re like me, then you notice from time to time as you build your MLM business that not everybody thinks you are perfect. Can’t be helped. For like-minded people to find you, you have to brand yourself deep. But when you do that, unlike-minded people will find you, too. And they probably won’t like you one bit.

Oh, well.

It’s a simple fact of life, especially business life, but people still struggle with it. They don’t want anyone upset with them. Problem is, if nobody is upset with you, chances are you haven’t given anybody a reason to become a raving fan of yours, either. Being in the squishy middle is NOT the road to fame and fortune in network marketing.

Even our closest family members may have very different ideas from ours on how to evaluate life. It’s hard to accept this fact … but you know it’s true. No one likes rejection or disapproval, but we get them anyway. The key to happiness and success is in how we react.

If a Presidential candidate wins 55% of the vote, they call it a landslide, a mandate. Yet 45% of the people wanted the other guy. That’s how life works. It’s OK. Be happy when they approve, but don’t worry when they don’t. If five and a half people out of ten approve of what you say or do, that would be an historic victory in a Presidential election. It’s a win, period. Take it.

What matters is your principles. Are they sound? Will they logically guide you to success, achievement, and happiness in network marketing and in life? If you answer “Yes,” then don’t worry about the inevitable disapproval. Just focus on and depend on your own inner direction.

Your friends for life.

Michael & Linda Dlouhy
“Be a mentor with a servant’s heart!”
1-352-799-8779 Call anytime.
Big MLM Lies

As you know, your personal life and your MLM business life don’t always run on an even keel. The more aware you are of that fact, the more important it is to you to focus your attention on the good and positive, and to minimize or change the bad and negative.

Some people can get really caught up in a “down” mood. In a good mood, you feel great. Your common sense is in charge, and you see life as it really as, and as good as you can make it become. Problems aren’t any big deal. Relationships are easy. You can handle anything.

But when we’re on the dark side of the moon, life is a lot tougher. We can really beat ourselves up. And we distrust others and take what they say very personally.

Here’s the craziest thing. When you are in that dark mood, it is 100% of the time going to change back to a good mood, even if you do NOTHING! And you can certainly help it along. Good books, good audiotapes, a good listener … all of these can help you with a fast turnaround.

We’ve all seen the swings in others, and we’ve seen them do some pretty weird things when they are in the “low” mood. And then a little later, we see them and everything is right with their world.

Since your mood is going to change back anyway, what is the point in getting all upset, feeling we live under a dark cloud, that our whole life has fallen apart in the last 45 minutes? Doesn’t that seem pretty ridiculous?

Anytime you’re feeling low, just recognize it as a mood. “This, too, shall pass.” Why let yourself get sucked into a downward spiral? Someone once wrote that people in bad moods tend to come up with permanent solutions to temporary problems. I’ve never heard it said better. YOU are in charge. YOU know the mood will pass. Whatever bad thoughts you have about your personal life or your MLM business at any time, they will soon be replaced by good ones, whether you do anything or not. And the good news is, you CAN do things to speed the process back to a positive state of mind. The more you take charge, the happier you will be, and the longer your “good” moods will last.

Your friends for life,

Michael and Linda Dlouhy
“Be a mentor with a servant’s heart!”
1-352-799-8779  Call anytime
Success In 10 Steps

In MLM, we talk about duplication all the time. And it exists … but it’s never perfect. Everybody has their own way of doing things. No matter how closely someone may model you, they will make their own little personal changes. Most of the time, it’s no big deal. So don’t make it one.

Just be sure people understand the main principles. Then they can innovate a bit and still get good results. You can’t be one of those “my way or the highway” people, because most of us come to network marketing to get away from that!

That said, it IS important the people follow correct principles. If they go totally off the path, aimlessly wandering the forest, they’ll get lost. When you see that, then you need to assert yourself, because it’s for their own good. Just be sure that the battle you choose to fight is 100% relevant to THEIR success.

Plans rarely go exactly as you would like. People never do things just the way you would. But your step-by-step method probably isn’t sacred. There are lots of ways to skin a cat. Don’t let minor differences in style become a source of unhappiness, frustration, or constant battles.

The crucial action for you is to be certain you understand the principles behind every plan. Your goal isn’t to have your prospect become you … it’s to have them bond with you and follow your lead to build a successful business. If you do something that causes them to feel isolated and pull away from you, then YOU are the one who is sabotaging the plan.

Again, it all goes back to the principles of promoting & building the MLM business. Know what those are, and don’t sweat the small stuff.

Your friends for life,

Michael & Linda Dlouhy
“Be a mentor with a servant’s heart!”
1-352-799-8779  Call anytime
Success In 10 Steps