I spend a lot of hours a week talking to people one-on-one about their emotions and how to use them to build MLM relationships. So it’s no real surprise that while doing MLM prospecting, I regularly run into a person’s resentment toward friends or relatives, often from years ago. The source could be an argument, the way they were raised, some slight either real or imagined, any kind of emotionally painful occurrence. And often, the person is waiting for “the other guy” to call and apologize.
The people I speak with all want to be successful in network marketing. And to have more, they have to BE more. In this case, it’s important to reach out and forgive. What is the sense going through life angry? And it makes no difference who is “at fault.”
I spoke with a lady not long ago, and she is in poor health. She hasn’t talked to her son in nearly 3 years. I asked her, “Why?” She told me about their argument over his wife. The lady was adamant. Her son was wrong. No way would she talk to him until he called and apologized.
I mentioned it might be good for her to make the call. Her response? “No. He’s got to call and apologize.”
This lady was willing to die rather than make the first move to make up with her own son. And, of course, it appeared he was prepared to never see his mother again, until the funeral.
After we spoke for awhile, she did decide to reach out. She called me back, amazed. Her son was very thankful she called him. And he DID apologize. They both benefitted immensely from her willingness to call.
As a side benefit (mine), nothing builds your business faster than an MLM prospect who is thrilled with the mentoring you give them.
Holding onto anger turns our minds topsy-turvy. We actually believe being right is more important than relationships. That’s just not true. To be happy, let the anger go. Reach out. Let that other person be right. It doesn’t mean you’re wrong. You’ll be OK. Once you let go, you’ll feel the peace and joy of allowing that other person to be right.
And what you’ll notice is, they get less defensive. They appreciate and love you more. Often, they reach back. But even if they don’t, you have the satisfaction of knowing you did your part to heal the break, and you’ll feel much better about yourself.
Which is worth a lot anytime you’re doing MLM prospecting!
Your friends for life,
Michael & Linda Dlouhy
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